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Advice: Don'T Invest Too Much In Interpersonal Communication.

2010/12/15 13:35:00 66

Interpersonal Communication

  

Don't be too nice to people! Good deeds are almost done, and they will bring unexpected results to you.

For a person with ability to work and reason, independence and pay are internal needs.

人际关系中如果不能相互满足某种需要,那么这种关系维持起来就比较困难。在卡耐基成功人际交往思想中,很重要的就是要遵循心理交往中的功利原则——这一原则是建立在人的各种需要(包括精神的、物质的内容)的基础上,即人际交往是满足人们需要的活动。

Homans, a psychologist, raised the idea of human to human interaction as early as 1974.

Communicative essence

It is a kind of social exchange, which is the same as the principle of commodity exchange in the market, that is, people want to get more than what they have paid.

In fact, we can not get less than what we pay. If we get more than what we pay, we will make people lose their balance.


Interpersonal communication should be reserved. One mistake often made by people entering the social circle is "doing well at the same time". Thinking that you are wholeheartedly working for the other side will be harmonious and close.

In fact, this is not the case.

Because people can not simply accept others pay, otherwise the psychological will feel unbalanced.

"Dripping water, Yongquan report" is also a way to balance the relationship.

If a good thing is done at once, it makes people feel unable to return or have no chance to return, guilt will make the beneficiary choose.

Estranged

Leave room for good things should not be done at one time. This may be an important criterion for balancing interpersonal relationships.


Leave space for yourself, and keep your distance properly, because you need a little space in your mind. If you want to help others and want to maintain long-term relationships with others, then you can give others a chance to give others a reward and not alienate their relationship because of inner pressure. "Excessive investment" does not give the other party a chance to breathe. It will suffocate the other's soul. There is room for each other to breathe freely and freely.

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