Where Are The Differences Between Chinese Children And American Children? You Must Not Know.

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Every four years, a presidential election is going on like a raging fire. The debate between the Democratic Party and the Republican candidate will become an American conversation.

The speech ability of American leaders is obvious to all. They can not only spend two hours without manuscript paper, but also do well in their demeanor, posture and body language.

American children often give people a sense of sunshine and confidence, but they do not know that this confidence comes from the cultivation of leadership from an early age of education in the United States.

In fact, every child has the potential to become a leader in one aspect of his or her life.

Of course, the definition of leaders in American education is not like China. Leaders are people with high positions and rights in our ordinary sense.

Leaders in American education are very broad. They come from different backgrounds and diverse personalities. Some leaders may be easy-going and friendly, but some are relatively calm and objective.

Although each child's personality is different and his growing environment is different, there is no doubt that leadership can be cultivated.

Parents are the guides of children's lives. Many successful leaders are honest. Their leadership comes from their parents' guidance and influence at first.

American education has attached great importance to the cultivation of leadership from an early age, and many of their methods are also worth learning by Chinese schools and parents. Today, I want to talk to you about how the United States has nurture children's leadership from an early age.

Learn to communicate with others 1

Communication is speaking. Though it sounds simple, it is not easy to really do it well.

A good leader must be a good communicator.

Communication skills can be trained.

From birth, children are constantly learning to communicate with others.

Before speaking, use various body language to express and communicate.

A while ago, I read an article entitled "conjugal love is good talk".

I think this sentence can also be applied to communication between parents and children.

When children are obedient, parents can speak well, but when their children are mischievous and fail to pass examinations, can parents still speak calmly to them?

I am a famous friend in the circle of friends, but I feel that I have done the best, and I always insist on doing equal communication with my children.

When they were very young, I began squatting down to talk with them - looking at each other and looking at each other.

At the very beginning, when my child spoke to me, his eyes were always looking around.

I will tell him that when I talk with others, I look at each other and respect others.

Looking at other people's eyes, they can also convey more information to each other through their eyes.

American education is extremely strong. Parents should have equal dialogues and communication with their children. Parents should not talk to their children in a commanding and arrogant tone. When children make mistakes, they need to think of roles in a child's perspective. Children who grow up in such a family environment tend to be more considerate of others and become leaders when they grow up.

Learn to listen 2

A good leader must also be a good listener.

From the kindergarten, the United States emphasized that children should be good listeners.

I mentioned how to teach children to be good listeners.

1. face forward

2. look at the speaker.

3. put your hands on your knees.

4. cross legged legs.

5. raise your hand to answer questions.

6. think carefully about what you hear.

A good leader doesn't have to talk all the time.

Learning to listen to other people's opinions and expressing their views at the right time is very emphasized in American education.

To learn to listen is to respect others' performance, and also to constantly improve their own views from other people's viewpoints.

Learn teamwork 3

American education attaches great importance to teamwork.

Teamwork (teamwork) is a word that American children often talk about. "Lone hero" is not advocated in American education.

American schools, from kindergarten to university, have to collectively complete projects one after another.

Small to collective to do a small manual, big to develop a new product.

There is a special word in American education called PBL Project Based Learning, which is based on project / topic form, and teamwork is the foundation of project learning.

In a team, everyone's role is different, and leaders must have followers.

And each child's talent is different. The follower in this project may be the leader of another project.

I remember when I first arrived in Stanford University for the first semester, I worked with a few biology students to do a project.

As for biology, Lanlan Ma is totally a layman, so I always play a role of follower in that whole project.

Our project leader arranges me to do what I do.

But I always pay attention to learning how he arranges everyone's work, giving play to everyone's expertise, tracking the progress of the whole project, and coordinating possible problems in the project.

So when that project was finished, I learned a lot from it.

Later, when I met projects that I was good at, I was naturally the leader of that project.

Learning hegemony is not necessarily a good leader. A good leader must also be a good collaborator.

This is the consciousness that American education has consciously pmitted to children from kindergarten.

A good leader must be objective and calm when he meets something.

This is not easy for children, but for adults.

Children often encounter such difficulties in the process of growing up, and often get emotional out of control.

American teachers emphasize that when children are out of control, don't try to reason with them at this time.

Children can not listen to any reason when they lose their temper, because this time, they will only add fuel to the fire by reasoning with them.

The younger children are easier to get out of control because of little things.

My usual practice is to take him to his room or no one's place when they are out of control, and calm him down first.

Of course, children sometimes need to vent their emotions by crying.

I usually tell my child that you can use your tears to vent your emotions, but crying can't solve practical problems.

I give you 5 minutes to vent, but after 5 minutes, I hope you can calm down and discuss the solution with me.

It is an instant solution to pfer children from uncontrolled emotions to specific solutions.

I usually ask my child to tell me what happened in the first place, and which step is making him feel uncomfortable.

Help children analyze the ins and outs of things, what choices he has, what consequences each choice will have, and whether he can bear the consequences.

Leaders always face different difficulties and face various choices.

Teaching children to learn to control their emotions and make a calm and objective choice is that every parent should teach their children.

Sense of responsibility 5

Examples of countless successful people tell us that a good leader is more responsible and more stressed than the average person.

Therefore, to cultivate children's leadership, we must let them know that they will accept more challenges and take on more responsibilities in the future.

Fostering children's sense of responsibility can start from minor matters.

For example, it is a good way to cultivate children's sense of responsibility to make a goal that is relatively easy for him to achieve, or to assign him to help his parents do some housework.

Sense of responsibility also means "words must be done and deeds must be done".

American education emphasizes that parents do not promise children easily, but once they commit, they must try their best to achieve it.

American teachers emphasize that if parents can't do that, don't give empty cheque to their children.

Because of every promise of parents, children will bear in mind.

Once it can not be realized, children will develop a habit of not taking responsibility as time passes.

Parents can help children make plans and implement them, which is also a good way to develop children's leadership.

Public speaking 6

The president of the United States as big as the United States has to pass a speech as soon as a squad leader is born.

Since the beginning of the kindergarten, the United States has attached great importance to children's speaking ability. Every semester children have public speaking courses.

And every time we finish a project, students will do presentation (project summary).

The ability to speak publicly is entirely possible through training.

From kindergarten to weekly story telling time, teachers will invite a student to act as a teacher to help them complete.

I remember when my son was chosen as a teacher for the first time, he was very nervous.

He was worried that he could not do well. He said to me, "Mom, I think I will be blushing and heartbeat, and my mind will be blank" when I stand on stage.

So I did several simulations with him at home, from the pause of every sentence to what body language to match.

After repeated exercises, my son became more and more confident.

The aim is to help children build self-confidence and predict how to cope with situations.

A good leader must be a good speaker. The United States stresses the importance of training children's ability to speak in public, not only for their psychological qualities, but also for their children to express their opinions bravely.

Training children's negotiating skills 7

Chinese education emphasizes that children should listen to their parents at home and listen to their teachers in schools.

American education emphasizes that everything can be negotiation (negotiation / negotiation).

The object of negotiation can be parents, teachers, professors and even any authority.

I still remember my son came back from the first grade one day and told me happily, "Mom, the teacher was going to criticize me today, and finally praised me."

It turned out that he was speaking in class, and the teacher wanted to give him a little punishment.

But my son boldly said to the teacher, "teacher, I am wrong. Can you give me another chance?"

It is also important for us to train children to become leaders in the future.

Wrote so much about how to train children to become

But the content of the world is not necessarily a leader.

Each child's personality is different and his future life is different.

But I want to learn how to communicate with others, listen to them, control their emotions, express their opinions appropriately, and become a responsible person. Whether they become leaders or good collaborators in the future, it is very important for children.

As parents, even though we have countless dreams to wait for them to achieve, but remember that every child is a completely independent individual, they have their own ideas, and also have their own way of life in the future. As parents, what we can do is to give them the correct guidance, no matter the future is a leader or a collaborator, let them do themselves and pursue their own dreams, we will be proud and proud of them.